Runningbrook International Preschool
San Carlos Center: Carlos Peña Otaegui 11206 (intersection La Fuente) San Carlos de Apoquindo, Las Condes
Runningbrook International Preschool
San Carlos Center: Carlos Peña Otaegui 11206 (intersection La Fuente) San Carlos de Apoquindo, Las Condes
October 8, 2026
It's 6:30 in the evening. Dinner is late, your toddler skipped a nap, and something small, like a cup in the wrong color, sets off a full meltdown. Most parents know this moment. Other days look completely different: the evening goes smoothly, your child heads to the bath without a fuss, and bedtime feels peaceful. Often the difference between those two evenings isn't your child's personality or your parenting. It's predictability.
In this article we look at why routines matter so much to young children, what you might notice at different ages, and simple ways to build rhythms that help your child feel safe, while leaving room for the flexibility real family life needs.
Toddlers live in a world they can't control. Adults decide when they eat, when they leave the park, and when it's time to sleep. Their sense of time is still developing too, so "in ten minutes" or "after lunch" can mean very little. When children can't guess what's coming next, their bodies often react with stress: clinging, protesting, or falling apart.
Routines give children a map of their day. When the same steps happen in the same order (bath, pajamas, story, song, lights out), children can anticipate what's next. Being able to anticipate gives them a sense of mastery, and that sense of mastery lowers anxiety.
Research supports this. In a widely cited review published in Infants & Young Children (2007), researchers Mary Spagnola and Barbara Fiese found that regular family routines and rituals are linked to better emotional regulation, stronger social skills, and healthier development in young children. The Harvard Center on the Developing Child also notes that predictable, responsive relationships and environments help children build executive function skills, such as self-control, working memory, and flexible thinking, which form the base for later learning. These ideas sit at the heart of early childhood development: secure children have more energy left for exploring, playing, and learning.
It's worth saying that a routine is not a rigid schedule. Children don't need life to run by the clock. What helps them is a reliable sequence of events and the steady presence of caring adults.
Children respond to routines differently depending on their age, temperament, and experiences. Every child develops at their own pace, so think of these descriptions as general patterns, not checklists.
For babies, routines are mostly about the body: feeding, sleeping, diaper changes, and cuddles. You may notice your baby relaxing when they hear the bath running or recognize a familiar lullaby. Repeated caregiving moments, done with eye contact and warm words, teach babies that the world is responsive and trustworthy. That is the foundation of secure attachment.
This is often when routines matter most, and when parents see the strongest reactions to changes. You might see:
These behaviors are not stubbornness for its own sake. They show a healthy, growing mind trying to make sense of the world and gain some control over it.
Older children begin to own their routines. They may remind you that it's story time, help set the table, or follow a picture chart on their own. Routines now support growing independence and self-esteem. Preschoolers also start to handle changes better, especially when adults prepare them ahead of time.
You don't need to reorganize your whole life to bring more predictability into your child's day. Small, consistent steps make a big difference.
Instead of planning every hour, focus on the moments that set the tone: waking up, mealtimes, leaving the house, and bedtime. Keep the order of steps the same, even if the timing changes a little. For example, a morning might always follow: hug, get dressed, breakfast, brush teeth, shoes.
Young children understand pictures long before they understand clocks. A simple chart with photos or drawings of each step (bath, pajamas, book, bed) lets your child "read" the routine and check what comes next. Many children love moving a clip or sticker as they finish each step.
Sudden changes are hard for everyone. Try a gentle heads-up: "Two more turns on the slide, then we'll go home and have a snack." A song, a timer, or a special phrase can work as a transition signal. Over time, your child learns that changes come with warning and isn't caught off guard.
Routines are more than tasks. They are chances to connect. A special goodbye handshake at drop-off, a silly song while brushing teeth, or sharing "the best part of your day" at dinner turns everyday steps into moments of closeness. These small rituals are often what children remember and look forward to most.
Travel, a new sibling, holidays, or starting preschool will interrupt routines, and that's okay. Talk about what's coming, read books about the change, and keep a few anchors steady, like the same bedtime story or a favorite stuffed animal. When much of the day is new, one familiar ritual can be very comforting.
A note on flexibility: The goal is a predictable rhythm, not perfection. Late nights, family celebrations, and spontaneous adventures are part of a full childhood. When routines are usually reliable, children cope with occasional changes much better.
There is no single "right" routine. Families around the world organize their days in very different ways. In some homes dinner is early and bedtime follows soon after. In others, especially here in Chile, families may share a late once together, and children may stay up longer to enjoy time with grandparents or extended family. Some families co-sleep, others don't. Some children nap in the afternoon, others rest during a quiet time.
What matters most for a child's sense of security is not the specific clock time, but consistency and warmth within your family's own rhythm. In a multicultural environment like Runningbrook, where families come from more than 35 countries, we see every day how many different routines can support happy, secure children.
For bilingual families, routines can also be a great language tool. Using the same phrases, songs, or stories in a particular language during specific routines (for example, a bedtime song in one language and breakfast chat in another) gives children repeated, meaningful exposure. That's one reason routines and bilingual education work so well together.
At Runningbrook, our child-centered approach means we build our days around children's needs, and predictability is one of them. In every program, from Growing Steps to Pre-Kinder, children follow a familiar daily rhythm: a warm welcome, circle time, free and guided play, snack, outdoor time, and calm closing moments.
Within that structure there is plenty of room for curiosity and choice. Because children know what to expect, they feel free to explore, take risks, and dive into play-based learning. A child who feels secure is ready to try a new climbing structure, join a group game, or experiment with paint and clay.
Our small group sizes and dedicated educators also allow us to notice each child's cues. We use visual schedules, transition songs, and gentle warnings, and we adapt routines for children who need more time or support, especially during their first weeks with us. We also keep an open conversation with families, because the routines you have at home help us make your child's day with us feel familiar.
Every child is different. Some love structure and feel uneasy with any change; others go with the flow and only need a light framework. Children also develop at different rates, and what works at two may need adjusting at four. Trust what you observe. You are the expert on your own child: you know their rhythms, their signals, and what helps them feel calm.
If evenings feel chaotic right now, remember that small changes add up. Choose one moment of the day, make it a little more predictable and a little more connected, and see what happens. You don't have to get it perfect. Your steady, loving presence is the most powerful routine of all, and it is what gives your child the security to grow, explore, and shine.